Nerds in Relationships: INTP, INTJ, ISTP & ISTJ Personality Types
Changing the plan at the last minute is offsetting to them — and will almost never go over well. To the INTJ, arousal is not purely instinctual. Attraction begins in the mind and the best way to get them in the mood is to mention a sexual fantasy that gets them thinking — hard. INTJs are creative, kinky lovers who view some parts of sex as a challenge.
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They want to constantly improve their game and continually get their partner off in better, more creative ways. This type enjoys the mental connection that comes with sexual intimacy just as much as they enjoy the raw physical component. They analyze people exactly as they are — the good, the bad and the downright terrifying. Just go with it. They get you and that is usually a good thing.
INTJs have no patience for passive-aggressive comments or subtle remarks. If something is amiss in the relationship, they appreciate being told point-blank what is wrong and what the best course of action would be to fix it.
To an INTJ, every conflict is a puzzle to be solved. If he's wiling to uproot his whole life for you I'd say he's willing to work on easier thinks too it just might take a little coaxing. Keep in mind that not everyone is as ambitious as you.
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That's not his fault and it's something you'll have to learn to live with. At some point you might need to put your food down and be his mom about it. It sucks I know but some of us men need to be treated like boys once in a while. This really resonated with how I have been feeling all these years. Every time I needed him to make a decision even simple ones like getting new shoes because the soles are falling apart I am not one to mommy but I feel like at times, nothing will be accomplished unless I end up doing it all myself.
I have asked him if he would move with me and received a "will need to think about adjusting my surroundings to adapt in a new environment, which may take years" type of response. If you don't mind me asking, what aspects of your SO made you realize that living without her would be worse? I have been thinking about "separating" for a while to get another perspective in figuring this out.
Well I don't often find someone who will blindly accept me for who I am like she does. I think it would have been a shame to lose my best friend over something so small. You'll really need to judge if he feels the same for you.
If he does, moving shouldn't be something he has to think about. He should be willing to do whatever nesseccary to stay by your side. It's also totally ok to walk away if you feel he's going to drag you down. I learned long ago that love isn't always enough. With that said I think you might need to be overly blunt with him. Tell him your not mad but you really need to have a legit conversation with him. If he can't grow up and give you answers your gonna have to decide then where you see yourself in a few years with him. Thank you for your insights.
My partner blindly accepts me for who I am as well.
This has been one major aspect in staying together for so long. Often enough, I scare many men away due to my intensity and being direct in an emotionless manner which can be off-putting. The fact that he has stayed around for so long and can cope with this has certainly earned my devotion. And, yes, I rarely complain about my relationships although I want them better, too.
The love thing again. Are you familiar with the enneagram? Are you an E1, perhaps 1w2? But in Socionics, I can see it being related to Ti, since Socionics Ti relates more to structure and order of both thoughts and environment. Socionics Te has more to do with algorithmic plans and application of resources toward reaching resolutions. Basically, in Socionics, all the functions are redefined. Here's an example of this process using your supposed type: The same goes with Te, relating to Ti and Ne.
Thus, an ISTj would ratain the analytical framwork quality, yet take the practical, hands-on, personal power focus of Se, but lacking the vision and open-mindedness of Ne. It gets really complicated, but on a general level of function definition, I believe this is how it works. If you have any questions, I'm studying Socionics myself, and I'll try to answer them.
It helps me to solidify my own understanding to answer the questions of others. In Socionics, the third function is the Hidden Agenda for that type. For us INTj's, that is Fi. The Hidden Agenda is what we secretly aspire to, but it doesn't really show on the surface. For both systems, the tertiary and quaternary functions are the same. Oddly, the primay and auxiliary functions are different.
This is what I covered in my last post, about the function defnintions. For MBTI, the first two functions are conscious, the second two subconscious. For Socionics, the first four are conscious, the second four subconscious.
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This is because the first two are conscious, the second two subconscious, the conscious is repressing the subconscious. In Sociniocs, the first four functions are conscious, repressing the second four, which are subconscious. In Socionics, the first function is the opposite of the eighth, the second the oppostie of the seventh, etc. Note that the third and fourth functions are not well used until the person is well-developed, but the are what they person tries to become the super-ego block , while the first and second person are what that person naturally is the ego block while the rest is what is repressed.
I'm still studying these "blocks", I'll try to post more on them later. Actually, in Socionics the 6th function is the hidden Agenda. Originally Posted by Orion. Can I just say that 'abc' sounds like a real sweetie, but maybe he needs to be more exciting for his partner rather than just more affectionate.